The Blog

07 Apr

Tips for These Times – TV and Social Media

“You become what you think about most of the time” ― Brian Tracy I have been so inspired recently by the people reaching out to offer empowering resources and thoughts during these interesting times. I want to do my part and support positivity and abundance. When things change, we have so much opportunity to change

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27 Mar

Uncertainty

“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ― John Allen Paulos This might not be super reassuring during this time of “uncertainty,” but allow me to reframe. Certainty is an illusion. I am going to say some things I know you know already, but

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19 Mar

How to Work From Home

One thing new coaches learn is how to meet people where they are. Where are you right now? You may be nervous, anxious, scared. Or somewhere in between. Or maybe you are excited and seeing opportunity. Allow me to normalize. I have talked to a lot of clients in the last week and all these

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04 Mar

Communication – Turns out it’s not About the Nail

Want to learn to be an effective communicator?  This video says it all.  I know you see the problem.  I know it is crystal clear to you and not at all clear to them.  I know you want to help. But…and this is a very important but…in listening it is truly NOT about the nail.  If

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31 Jan

Energy Goes Where Attention Flows

“Energy Flows Where Attention Goes” I first heard this from Lou Dozier (www.sourcepointtraining.com). This may be the most powerful concept I have learned. I used to spend a lot of time focusing on what I did not want, what I did not like, what I wished would change. And you know what I got? What

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21 Dec

Communication Breakdowns, Part IV

Dealing with Communication Breakdowns Part IV:  Problem-Solve This is the final in a four-part series on clearing breakdowns in communication. If you have not read the prior three blog posts, you may want to start there: Communication Breakdowns, Part I Communication Breakdowns, Part II Communication Breakdowns, Part III Once you have managed your feelings and

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02 Dec

Communication Breakdowns, Part III

Dealing with Communication Breakdowns Part III: The Process “The best way out is always through.” ~ Robert Frost Summary of the process: 1. Manage your emotions. 2. Know yourself. 3. Problem solve. Managing Emotion: The first step when you want to clear up a breakdown is to be sure you are in a “resourceful state.”

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07 Nov

Communication Breakdowns, Part II

Dealing with Communication Breakdowns Part II:  What is a Communication Breakdown and How does it Arise? Our last blog post talked about the conversations we avoid, often not even knowing we are avoiding them.  Communications Breakdowns, Part I.  We are in the midst of a series on communication breakdowns, how to recognize them and how

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29 Oct

Leader as Coach

One of my student coaches recently sent me this article from the Harvard Business Review.  If you are a leader, you are going to get great value from this article!  She sums it up better than I can: “The article talks about how management styles have had to change to better respond to a different

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21 Oct

Communication Breakdowns, Part I

Dealing With Communication Breakdowns Part I:  Communication and Fear One of the main things people come to coaching for is better communication.  They may have other results they desire, but it turns out most of the things we want are in some way predicated on communication. So when my client comes to me and says,

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05 Sep

How to Become a Coach-Style Leader

For those of you in supervisory positions – whether designated “managers” or leaders of another kind, this article is for you! A good leader is someone whose people are productive, innovative and excited to be part of the team. How does an employee — particularly one new to a leadership role — develop the skills to

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24 Jul

The Importance of Clear Agreements

You may be saying, “I know the importance of clear agreements.”  Even so, there is a good chance you are not getting them. Today I want to give you a simple tool that will transform the culture of your organization and improve the results you produce.  It is called “the Complete Request.”  (I am grateful

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10 Jul

Free Your Mind

“Free your mind and the rest will follow” –En Vogue I facilitate a training on accountability. Organizations hire me to teach a form of accountability that calls for neutral and non-judgmental examination of the choices we make that lead to our results. We call this ownership for our results and our choices. It is not

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21 May

Dominoes

I saw a speaker once on Buddhism and mindfulness give this demonstration: He set up dominoes – like you did when you were a kid – in a serpentine design on the floor. Then he hit one and it hit the next one and so on until they were cascading their clack clack clack and

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07 May

A Simple Time Management Tip for the Week

Think about it. No really.  Think about it.  This is my tip this week. Effective time management can seem counterintuitive.  I learned something this week from two different clients:  the value in taking time to sit and reflect. We live in a fast-paced world.  We are usually doing seven things at once.  Rarely do we

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12 Apr

What Would Wonder Woman Do?

Sometimes the answer is simpler than it seems.  Sometimes we can find a way to develop that new behavior in an easy way.  I speak frequently about neuro-linguistic programming and some of the techniques it offers.  One of them is called the New Behavior Generator. Let’s imagine you want to do something and you are

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29 Mar

What do you REALLY want?

People come to coaching for a variety of reasons: *make more money *get more clients *learn to communicate better *have better relationships with children or staff *lose weight *and on and on   What is your current goal? The question we always ask our clients is why do you want that?  And they will say “I

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07 Mar

The Second Arrow

In Buddhist philosophy pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. I have seen, coaching 100’s of people over the years, how this applies. Something happens – some failure, some event you don’t want and it causes “pain” – I don’t like it, I don’t want it, I wanted to get a different result. In coaching,

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09 Feb

What Kind of a Day Will You Have?

Have you ever had this experience: You run into a co-worker in the hall at 11am and you say, “How are you?” She says, “Man, this day is terrible.” Or, “I am having the worst day.” I hear this a lot. Or on Tuesday, “This is the worst week ever.” I had heard this a

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08 Jan

Accountability – the Decisive Element

“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; I can

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