The Blog

10 Aug

“I Can’t” (The Voice, Part 9)

In spin class yesterday, I heard this: “You can do so much more than you give yourself credit for.” (Or something like that.  I mean the music is loud and I am exhausted.) But I got to thinking.  (Because it’s easier than focusing on pedaling) and I thought, you know it’s true that we don’t

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03 Aug

My Eeyore Voice (The Voice, Part 8)

by Allison Post Harris What Cami calls “The Voice”—cue the vampire music—other people have labeled “gremlin” or “saboteur.” Regardless of what you call it, this Voice has always been there for me when I least needed it. Before I divorced my ex-husband, my Voice said “you should stay married for your toddlers. You should be

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17 Jul

Styles of Communication…and a Quote

“The effectiveness of communication is not defined by the communication, but by the response.” –Milton Erickson What does this mean?  So often we think that if we are “being clear” everyone should understand.  We put together our communication in such a way that we feel we are doing a good job because of the nature

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12 Jul

Jump in. Get Messy. (The Voice, Part 7)

The Voice. That stupid, wrong, incessant Voice. The one that tells me I’m not good enough, or smart enough, or talented enough. The one that tells me I’m not enough of this and I’m too much of that. I can never win with that one. And, the thing is, she’s wrong. She’s always wrong. I

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05 Jul

The Persistent Nature of That Sabotaging Voice (The Voice, Part 6)

Another blog post from my favorite writer, comfort zone stretcher and personal growth guru–my mom! CELEBRATING 79 AND MY “LITTLE VOICE” I guess I always thought my little voice would disappear as I got older. Not so! I’m here to tell you that at age 79, my little voice is alive and well and LOUD!

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27 Jun

“Not Very Smart” (The Voice, Part 5)

Yesterday, I returned from a week on Maui. I walked on the beach with my mom every morning and we talked about the Voice. We talked about where it comes from and what it says. I told her I learned that my voice likes to say, “That was stupid.” Or “that is stupid.” Or “that’s

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12 Jun

Does it Motivate You? (The Voice, Part 4)

We have been talking about the negative and mean voice that you have inside your head. The one that says, “You are not ___.” “You cannot ____.” “You have to do more or you will lose your job.” “You have to lose weight or people won’t like you.” I believe all behavior has a purpose

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07 Jun

Comfortable Being Uncomfortable (The Voice, Part 3)

Everything you want, that you do not already have, is outside your comfort zone. How do I know? Because if it was comfortable, you would have it already. I want to lose weight I want better communication with my spouse I want to quit my job I want a raise I want to have a

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01 Jun

The Language of Leadership – Your Quote of the Week

“The art of communication is the language of leadership.” –James Humes (Author and former presidential speech writer) Coming to Sacramento July 25, 2017: Discover the Secrets of Effective Communication Ever feel like other people are “speaking Greek”? Do other people misunderstand YOU? What would change if you learned to communicate effectively with different kinds of

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24 May

The Ways We Sabotage Ourselves (The Voice, Part 2)

I wrote last week about that sabotaging voice inside your head. I attached a blog post by Cheryl Strayed (Dear Sugar) about a woman who was afraid she would get cancer because her parents had cancer. The story in her head was so clear that she decided not to have children because she did not want

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15 May

The Voice in Your Head

Here is a topic I talk to my all of my clients about. And yes, this is business coaching. This is a secret known to coaches and others who work with people who want to accomplish something. When we want to accomplish something – in business or elsewhere – we often get stopped or stuck.

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08 May

Mass Exodus – The Downside of Rapport

Have you ever noticed you could be in a large room full of people all participating in the same training, all raising their hands to participate, all laughing at the same time, and then one person gets up to go to the bathroom. And then another person gets up to go to the bathroom. And

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03 May

Acknowledging Your Courage

This is for all my clients, present and past. This is also for my brave friends and family. This is for all the people I know who walk to the edge of their comfort zone and then lean over. Then step out. Then walk all the way out. Then sometimes come running back. Then walk

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03 May

Guest Blogger – Lessons From Dogs

http://mailchi.mp/758971dba6db/five-life-lessons-from-tucker-geil-summit-register-april-14-2017?e=25c01a74cc Five Life Lessons From Tucker Summit Register – April 14, 2017 It’s hard to believe, but my baby boy (for those of you who don’t know, that’s my miniature poodle, Tucker) turned 13 last week! He is doing well, with the exception of a little arthritis, and a good deal of hearing loss. That’s

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03 May

Guest Blogger – Lessons From Dogs

Five Life Lessons From Tucker Summit Register – April 14, 2017 It’s hard to believe, but my baby boy (for those of you who don’t know, that’s my miniature poodle, Tucker) turned 13 last week! He is doing well, with the exception of a little arthritis, and a good deal of hearing loss. That’s actually

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25 Apr

Guest Blogger – Lessons from Dogs

I recently met a coach who writes a lovely blog. I got the chance to spend some time with her and her pup. I learned a lot. There are lessons everywhere, not the least of which from animals. Click the link and enjoy her post. You will learn some things! Kim Geil, from Coaching Heights

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20 Apr

Time Management Tip #5 – Plan Your Day

Time Management training is next Wednesday – 5 seats left! https://www.eventbrite.com/o/mclaren-coaching-3074191754 Time Management Tip #5 – Plan Your Day Often we approach our days without a clear intention for what we will accomplish. If this is how you do things, then chances of your being pulled this way and that by distractions and other people’s

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12 Apr

Time Management Tip #4 – Say “NO”

I cannot tell you how many of my coaching calls involve this epiphany:  “I need to say ‘no’ more often.”  It’s interesting to me how much we say “yes,” when our businesses would run smoother, not to mention our personal lives, if instead we said, “No.”  So many of us have a knee-jerk reaction to

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04 Apr

Time Management Tip #3 – Write it Down

Do you ever feel scattered or like there is too much in your head? When you have a spare moment, do you have so many things in your head that you don’t know where to start? Do you wake up at night wondering if you have missed something? These are symptoms of a larger challenge –

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