The Blog

16 Mar

Creating Habits – Summary (Habit, Part 9)

(Note: Scroll to the end of the blog to learn about our communication training offer ending Monday.) We (some of my clients and I) have been writing blogs on habits, their nature, their formation, etc. for a few months now. Today will be the last blog on habits. At least for awhile. Today I will

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05 Mar

On Smoking (Habit, Part 8)

Another guest blog from a beloved client.  Enjoy! Quitting smoking is easy…I’ve done it a million times. Yeah. That was me. That nasty, smelly, unhealthy, awful habit was mine…on and off…for decades. I started smoking when I was very young, nearly single digits. I mean, everyone did it. My mom and my stepdad both smoked.

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27 Feb

How You See Yourself (Habit, part 7)

We have been talking about habits for awhile now. We have been addressing techniques for changing habits, building new habits, shedding old habits. Today I want to talk about the more internal reasons it can be challenging to change certain habits. Everything you do – and everything you think – is part of a new

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22 Feb

Habits That Hinder Progress (Habit, Part 6)

Below is a guest blog, from another attorney who I have the privilege of working with. Notice how insidious some habits are, how we might be doing them without even knowing it and how they get in the way of what we are after. Once you decide to change certain things, though, if you pay attention,

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14 Feb

The Cell Phone (Habit, Part 5)

In writing my habits blogs, I thought it most useful to talk to other people and ask them to tell the story of how they changed a habit.  I particularly love this one because it addresses something many people grapple with – the insidious nature of the cell phone.  As Ali describes below, the phone

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30 Jan

How do You Break a Habit (Habit, Part 4)

How do you break a habit? Trick question. Sort of. You don’t break habits. To break a habit means to focus on NOT doing something. That’s a difficult task indeed. “Stop smoking.” What? How? The statement makes me focus entirely on what? On smoking. That is not useful. What you focus on expands. It’s a

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09 Jan

I Hope You Make Mistakes

“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something. So that’s my wish for you, and

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28 Dec

Closing Down the Year

“Start where you are Use what you have Do what you can” –Arthur Ashe ____________________________________ We are nearing 2018 and some of you are getting ready to say what you want for next year. New beginnings are so fresh, so hopeful. I really believe that you can create a new beginning any time you want.

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21 Dec

Your New Year’s Resolution – There’s a Better Way

Every year, the first week of January, you can’t find a parking spot at the gym. Every year by January 21, parking is no longer an issue. People have dropped off, gone back to “normal.” It’s so exciting to want change and declare it. I am a big fan of positive change. But change is

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12 Dec

The Importance of Knowing Your Destination

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat. “I don’t much care where—” said Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat. “—so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as

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05 Dec

Beyond Goal Setting – The Power of Declaration

I always think, at this time of year, about new beginnings and about creation.  Intentional creation.  This is appropriate anytime really.  You can always intentionally create.  But for some reason our brains really like the first of the year.  So I am taking a break from my “Habits” blog series and going to talk about

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29 Nov

Identifying Habit (Habit, Part 2)

“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” –Warren Buffett In the next few weeks, we will be talking about habit – how to recognize it while the “chains of habit are light,” how to create new habits, let go of old habits, the nature of habit,

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20 Nov

Perspective Changes Everything

There are many ways to look at your world. You see what you look for. This simple secret is key to so much. It is the theory behind gratitude practice. I.e., if you spend time being grateful, you will see more of what you are grateful for. Turns out it was there all along, but

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16 Nov

The Power of Habit, Part I

I once heard someone say that everything we do – every day, all day – is either part of an old habit or part of a new habit. Last week, I posted this riddle: I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you

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09 Nov

Precrastination – Who’d a Thought?

Another interesting article – this one is about a concept I discuss frequently with my clients – the tendency to do that which is right in front of you, but does not yet need to be addressed, just to get it off your plate. This tends to be something we do at the expense of

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08 Nov

The Secret to Change

Below is a piece I discovered some time ago.  See what you think the answer might be.  Feel free to comment at the bottom.  I’ll come back with the answer next week: I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to

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02 Nov

Sing it From the Rooftop

In coaching there is this concept – that of acknowledgement. It means acknowledging that we have done something specific. Or not done something. It is meant to be a neutral term that takes the negative energy out of something we may consider a “failure.” “I acknowledge I did not arrive on time.” It then opens

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26 Oct

CANI – Making Life (Business and all of it) Better

I was reading a book this morning that talked about the human aversion to change. It said that even if you are in a highly uncomfortable and/or unpleasant place in your life, you may very well resist making it better. Humans are drawn to the familiar – even if the familiar is painful and bad.

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03 Oct

Avoiding Communication Misunderstandings

Misunderstandings:  how often do they occur? And what is the price you pay for them? Whose fault are those misunderstandings anyway? So often in communication people tend to blame the other person for a lack of understanding. And if they don’t blame the other person, then often they blame themselves. I wrote last week about the concept of

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