The Blog

15 Nov

The Power of Your Beliefs

There is a wonderful book I read by a doctor named Bruce Lipton. We read it in our coach training.  It is called The Biology of Belief. On some level, coaching is premised on this idea – that our beliefs are what either propel us forward or hold us back.  For some people, the idea

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16 Oct

There is no Such Thing as a “Normal” Week

Sometimes it’s useful to just say what is so. There are stories we tell ourselves that are unexamined and do not contain all the truth. This is one of them. As you know by now if you’ve been reading my blogs, one of the things my clients do on their calls with me is “declare”

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01 Oct

On Time and Timing

Often time management is not what you think it will be. There seems to be a paradigm of work harder and more. But the most effective paradigm for time management has to do with approaching it in different ways. I was working with a client yesterday who decided to schedule easier work in her mid-week when

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12 Sep

Why?

My son went away to college this year. I was sitting at his orientation and the director said this, “Mark Twain once said that the two most important days of your life are the day you are born and the day you figure out why.” I love this theory of education – as being a

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27 Aug

How do You Choose?

When people come to coaching they are often clear on what they want. Their big question is usually how to get it. There are so many choices in life. Choices of how to grow your business. Choices of who to hire and how to create the firm culture you want. Choices of how to spend

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07 Aug

Purpose is Motivational

I work in the area of change.  Business coaching (most coaching really) is about getting something you do not already have.  So lately I’ve been hearing this question: “How do I get motivated?” This is not a new topic. But it’s a great question. “What is motivation?” Most people describe it as some sort of

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27 Jul

The Lens Through Which You See The World

This week, one of my clients told me that when she goes in for a job interview, often they look at her as if they are surprised at her age. She, like many people I coach, is afraid that she is too old to be offered the kind of work she wants. I said, “how

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16 Jul

Being a Visionary

Who would you call a “visionary?” Who stands out in your mind? For me, it’s people like Ghandi, Mandela and Martin Luther King. People who took the long view and could see the future and who were so clear on their vision that it gave them the passion and commitment to take bold action in

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02 Jul

Changing Other People

We all know that we can’t change other people. Right? And it is true. Ultimately. But you can affect so much more change than you think you can. Consider this quote: “The way you see people is the way you treat them, and the way you treat them is what they become.” Johann Wolfgang von

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22 Jun

The Power of Listening, and Simple Ways to Do it

Today, I want to share this video and this article with you.  The video is only 11 minutes long.  The article is short as well.  (I know you are busy!)  Recently I did a training on persuasive/collaborative communication.  Two different people sent me information from this woman.  These changes are very simple and will absolutely transform the

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07 Jun

Want Their Buy-In? Ask Questions!

More on the skill of enrollment: John Smith is an attorney. He meets George at a business mixer. George has some legal issues that John believes he can help with so they set a meeting. (While I use the attorney example, these principles apply for whatever business you are in.) The first pre-meeting question John

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01 Jun

But First, the Rapport

If you want something – anything – that involves another person (and when does it not?), you will need to engage in some level of enrollment.  See last week’s blog for the definition of “enrollment.”  (http://www.mclarencoaching.com/enrollment-the-art-of-collaborative-communication/) We use the tool of enrollment every day. Sometimes we use it successfully; sometimes not so much. Often others

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24 May

The REALITY of Enrollment

A Specific Model for Enrollment – REALITY We have been talking about the concept of “enrollment” – communicating with others in a way that they feel heard and that generates cooperation, collaboration and ownership. You cannot enroll if you cannot see reality. You must clearly see the other person’s reality to enroll them in anything.

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15 May

Enrollment – The Art of Collaborative Communication

  “Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” ~Dwight D. Eisenhower Over the next month, I am going to re-publish some of my older works on enrollment, leading up to my enrollment workshop on June 19 (below). Then I will resume our

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25 Apr

There is no Such Thing as Failure

There are a few “presuppositions” I learned when I was trained as a coach 10 years ago. A presupposition, in this context is a premise, a place to come from that supports what coaching is all about – change and growth. Recently I have been thinking about this one: There is no Failure. There is

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18 Apr

The Three Pillars of Relationship – and Why You Should Care

Some of you reading the “R” word will wonder why I address this as a business coach.  The better question is how could I not?  There is virtually nowhere that we operate in life and business that a relationship with another human does not come into play.  Indeed, there is very little we want in

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30 Mar

Communication – At Work (and elsewhere)

Here is my latest article in The Plaintiff magazine.  Of course, these communication skills apply in all kinds of professions and places – even at home. http://www.plaintiffmagazine.com/item/how-to-talk-so-associates-understand-you

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16 Mar

Creating Habits – Summary (Habit, Part 9)

(Note: Scroll to the end of the blog to learn about our communication training offer ending Monday.) We (some of my clients and I) have been writing blogs on habits, their nature, their formation, etc. for a few months now. Today will be the last blog on habits. At least for awhile. Today I will

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05 Mar

On Smoking (Habit, Part 8)

Another guest blog from a beloved client.  Enjoy! Quitting smoking is easy…I’ve done it a million times. Yeah. That was me. That nasty, smelly, unhealthy, awful habit was mine…on and off…for decades. I started smoking when I was very young, nearly single digits. I mean, everyone did it. My mom and my stepdad both smoked.

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