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02 Dec

Communication Breakdowns, Part III

Dealing with Communication Breakdowns Part III: The Process “The best way out is always through.” ~ Robert Frost Summary of the process: 1. Manage your emotions. 2. Know yourself. 3. Problem solve. Managing Emotion: The first step when you want to clear up a breakdown is to be sure you are in a “resourceful state.”

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07 Nov

Communication Breakdowns, Part II

Dealing with Communication Breakdowns Part II:  What is a Communication Breakdown and How does it Arise? Our last blog post talked about the conversations we avoid, often not even knowing we are avoiding them.  Communications Breakdowns, Part I.  We are in the midst of a series on communication breakdowns, how to recognize them and how

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29 Oct

Leader as Coach

One of my student coaches recently sent me this article from the Harvard Business Review.  If you are a leader, you are going to get great value from this article!  She sums it up better than I can: “The article talks about how management styles have had to change to better respond to a different

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21 Oct

Communication Breakdowns, Part I

Dealing With Communication Breakdowns Part I:  Communication and Fear One of the main things people come to coaching for is better communication.  They may have other results they desire, but it turns out most of the things we want are in some way predicated on communication. So when my client comes to me and says,

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05 Sep

How to Become a Coach-Style Leader

For those of you in supervisory positions – whether designated “managers” or leaders of another kind, this article is for you! A good leader is someone whose people are productive, innovative and excited to be part of the team. How does an employee — particularly one new to a leadership role — develop the skills to

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24 Jul

The Importance of Clear Agreements

You may be saying, “I know the importance of clear agreements.”  Even so, there is a good chance you are not getting them. Today I want to give you a simple tool that will transform the culture of your organization and improve the results you produce.  It is called “the Complete Request.”  (I am grateful

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10 Jul

Free Your Mind

“Free your mind and the rest will follow” –En Vogue I facilitate a training on accountability. Organizations hire me to teach a form of accountability that calls for neutral and non-judgmental examination of the choices we make that lead to our results. We call this ownership for our results and our choices. It is not

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21 May

Dominoes

I saw a speaker once on Buddhism and mindfulness give this demonstration: He set up dominoes – like you did when you were a kid – in a serpentine design on the floor. Then he hit one and it hit the next one and so on until they were cascading their clack clack clack and

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07 May

A Simple Time Management Tip for the Week

Think about it. No really.  Think about it.  This is my tip this week. Effective time management can seem counterintuitive.  I learned something this week from two different clients:  the value in taking time to sit and reflect. We live in a fast-paced world.  We are usually doing seven things at once.  Rarely do we

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12 Apr

What Would Wonder Woman Do?

Sometimes the answer is simpler than it seems.  Sometimes we can find a way to develop that new behavior in an easy way.  I speak frequently about neuro-linguistic programming and some of the techniques it offers.  One of them is called the New Behavior Generator. Let’s imagine you want to do something and you are

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29 Mar

What do you REALLY want?

People come to coaching for a variety of reasons: *make more money *get more clients *learn to communicate better *have better relationships with children or staff *lose weight *and on and on   What is your current goal? The question we always ask our clients is why do you want that?  And they will say “I

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07 Mar

The Second Arrow

In Buddhist philosophy pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. I have seen, coaching 100’s of people over the years, how this applies. Something happens – some failure, some event you don’t want and it causes “pain” – I don’t like it, I don’t want it, I wanted to get a different result. In coaching,

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09 Feb

What Kind of a Day Will You Have?

Have you ever had this experience: You run into a co-worker in the hall at 11am and you say, “How are you?” She says, “Man, this day is terrible.” Or, “I am having the worst day.” I hear this a lot. Or on Tuesday, “This is the worst week ever.” I had heard this a

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08 Jan

Accountability – the Decisive Element

“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element. It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather. I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous. I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; I can

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02 Jan

Creating 2019

This time of year, we tend to think about where we have been and where we are going.  There are many philosophies and practices on how to plan for the coming year.  Let’s try something a little different. Close your eyes. Imagine it is December 31, 2019.  Bring yourself there in your mind.  Be in

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12 Dec

The Value of Coaching: Illuminating Choice

Quick quiz: What is coaching? Okay; too broad? Try this question: what is the purpose of coaching? Coaching brings awareness to the choices you make and the choices you have in order to get what you want in your business and your life. When you hire a professional coach it will be with a desired outcome –

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27 Nov

Say “Yes!”

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure.” –Joseph Campbell The answer this week is “yes.” Our brains are funny. We say “no” to things without even checking them out. One of the reasons coaching is powerful is because it encourages you to take

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15 Nov

The Power of Your Beliefs

There is a wonderful book I read by a doctor named Bruce Lipton. We read it in our coach training.  It is called The Biology of Belief. On some level, coaching is premised on this idea – that our beliefs are what either propel us forward or hold us back.  For some people, the idea

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16 Oct

There is no Such Thing as a “Normal” Week

Sometimes it’s useful to just say what is so. There are stories we tell ourselves that are unexamined and do not contain all the truth. This is one of them. As you know by now if you’ve been reading my blogs, one of the things my clients do on their calls with me is “declare”

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01 Oct

On Time and Timing

Often time management is not what you think it will be. There seems to be a paradigm of work harder and more. But the most effective paradigm for time management has to do with approaching it in different ways. I was working with a client yesterday who decided to schedule easier work in her mid-week when

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