“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.”
― John Allen Paulos
This might not be super reassuring during this time of “uncertainty,” but allow me to reframe. Certainty is an illusion. I am going to say some things I know you know already, but knowing and really knowing may be two different things. This is what I have relearned over the last week or so. We strive to create a sense of certainty. But it’s not real. Anything can happen. At any time.
You may want to argue about it. You may say, yeah but I can create a circumstance of relative safety. But go with me for a minute.
Some of us are feeling profoundly insecure right now. And why? Many things have changed. For some of us though, what is frightening is the story in our heads. I have worked with most of my clients this week on the changes occurring. One thing we have been talking about is how to run a reality check on the voice inside your head. What is that voice saying?
• I am going to lose my business
• I am going to lose my job
• My clients can’t afford to pay me
How much of this is true? Some, perhaps. And how much if it is not true? Now, more than ever, is a good time to check your story. Not, “Could it be true at some point?” But, “Is it true?” Byron Katie created a great test for these kinds of thoughts:
Q1. Is it true?
Q2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
Q3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
Q4. Who would you be without that thought?
• What are you making up about this time period?
• How much of it do you know is true?
• How much of it is scaring you?
• Do you know that part is true?
• What is another possibility?
• What else could be true?
• What is the opportunity here?
Take a stand for things to be different.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
A Guide for Attorneys Working From Home
(With or without children)
(With or without crisis and uncertainty)
What? A live (Zoom) event for lawyers, to express, hear and overcome challenges specific to working from home in the current climate.
• A lot of lawyers are finding themselves in a “new normal” – working from home, often with a spouse and children, in a place that may or may not be conducive to productivity
• Many lawyers with children are feeling guilty for working at home and stretched between parenting and working
• Many lawyers are feeling unproductive
• Many lawyers are distracted by a level of anxiety and uncertainty about the future
Join Cami McLaren from McLaren Coaching in finding a way to feel in control, stay on track and be productive in uncertain times; maintaining your mental and emotional health; and improving your current outlook.
This live Zoom training will include a workbook on the materials covered.
When? Thursday, April 2, 2020, 12noon-1:30pm
Where? Zoom – you will receive the link when you register.
Email firstname.lastname@example.org to register.